How to Stop Disputes
Over Elderly Parents

16 minute read
Last Updated July 7, 1998
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Written by Rain McCoy

Reviewed by Carol Joyce Oates

Author Carol Joyces Oates spent two decades as a primary caregiver to seven elders and is also a newspaper columnist, blogger, and aging expert.

IN a Nutshell

ARTICLE OVERVIEW:

Siblings may disagree on elderly parent care, finances, efforts, and living arrangements, leading to common conflicts and needing solutions.
  • One child does all the heavy lifting
  • Siblings are excluded from decision making
  • Family members fall back into childhood patterns
  • Aging parents resist care
Siblings often have differences of opinion about their elderly parent’s care. Whether it’s disagreements about finances, how much effort each sibling is contributing, or where your parent might live, each sibling might feel they know what’s best. But not everyone can be right. Seeing a parent’s health decline can be painful, but it doesn’t have to cause conflict within families. Below are some of the most common issues that can arise among family members, plus advice on potential solutions.
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Siblings Disagree About How Much Care is Needed

Solutions : Get an expert assessment

Adult siblings don’t always see caregiving needs the same way. One child may have the impression that a parent is doing fine at home, while another feels that the parent needs extra help. This is especially common if family members are soread out geographically or spend different amounts of time with the aging loved one.

“Siblings have differences of opinion about their elderly parent’s care”

Siblings often have differences of opinion about their elderly parent’s care. Whether it’s disagreements about finances, how much effort each sibling is contributing,or where your parent might live, each sibling might feel they know what’s best. But not everyone can be right. Seeing a parent’s health decline can be painful, but it doesn’t have to cause conflict within families. Below are some of the most common issues that can arise among family members, plus advice on potential solutions.
Adult siblings don’t always see caregiving needs the same way. One child may have the impression that a parent is doing fine at home, while another feels that the parent needs extra help. This is especially common if family members are soread out geographically or spend different amounts of time with the aging loved one.

“Siblings disagree about how much care is needed”

An outside opinion can often help resolve issues. Arrange for a geriatric care manager or therepist to visit your loved one’s home for a safety assessment. Also, consult your parent’s primary doctor about recent deterioration or any developing physica challenges.
If you loved one will remain at home, help from you and your siblings can range from financial assistance to daily visits.

More Eldercare Care Decisions:

One of the biggest challenges caregivers face is ensuring an ageing loved one’s health and safety while respecting their wishes. When other relatives aren’t on the same page, the chances for complications only increase. The following resources can help you navigate difficult care decisions, conversations, and family dynamics.
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Caregiver Burnout : How to Identify and Reverse Course

Burnout is a gradual process. Early caregiver burnout symptoms are easy to brush away, but they can build unnoticed under prolonged and extreme stress until the caregiver hits a breaking point.
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What to do When Elderly Parents Refuse Help?

Supporting aging parents brings a host of challenges. It may make perfect sense to you that your parent needs help, like with housekeeping or personal care. However, they may refuse help and say no to the idea of a caregiver or senior care community.
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The Worrying Facts About Caregiver Health and Stress

More than one in 10 Americans act as an unpaid caregiver for an older friend or relative. Over the past three decades, thousands of studies have determined that this significant population is at risk of emotional and physical health consequences. In fact, poor caregiver health is one of the top reasons families seek assisted living.

Senior Living Options: ComparingHome Care and Assisted Living Facilities

Home care offers familiarity, while assisted living provides structured support and social engagement opportunities for seniors.

Financial planning for Aging Parents: Legal, Insurance, and Budget Advice

Financial planning for aging parents involves legal considerations, insurance options, and budgeting strategies to ensure long term financial stability.

Home Safety Modifications: Creating a Secure Environment for Elderly Parents

Home safety modifications for elderly include installing grab bars, improving lighting, ensuring non-slip floors, and layouts for accessibility.

Emotional Support Startegies: Managing Stress in Elderly Parent Caregiving

Emotional support for elderly caregiving includes active listening, patience, empathy, respite care, and seeking professional help when needed.

Nutritional Needs for Seniors: Diet Planning for Aging Parents

Nutritional planning for seniors focuses on balanced diets, age-appropriate nutrients, hydration, and health conditions or limitations.

Physical Therapy and Exercise: Keeping Aging Parents Active and Healthy

Physical therapy and exercise for aging parents enhance mobility, strength, balance, and overall health, tailored to capabilities and needs.
Home Safty Modifications:
Home Safty Modifications:
creating a secure place for elderly parents.
Senior Living Options
Senior Living Options:
comparing home care and assisted living facilities
Elderly Parent Care
Elderly Parent Care
health management and daily assistance tips.
Senior-friendly Flooring:
Senior-friendly Flooring:
reducing slip hazards in elderly living spaces.

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